Flirting with Second Chances

I have an older friend with marital woes. Before she married she kept telling me, "I shouldn't marry the man, it won't last." She said it over and over again. She was a new friend so I was trying to be happy for her, but I ended up confused.

They followed through and got hitched and it has been as up and down as a merry-go-round. I've listened to her and encouraged her to fight for love because I could hear her heart beating his name. As much as she hurt, she loved him and wanted to give him second chances over and over again. I get that especially since he's not abusive or a cheater.

Her love for him keeps her tied to him. Most of us have probably been there. I know I have. Truth is, these things are case by case and not everyone handles them the same. I said in a previous post on second chances that the other person should be as embracing of the second chance as Ebenezer Scrooge.

But the fact is, you both have to be invested and willing to get through all the growing pains together. It's hard to be overeager when you have to rebuild trust. It's okay if it doesn't look perfect and you have to take it slow and deliberate.

The biggist thing is to respect yourself and listen to your own heartbeat. Who is it calling out for? Couldn't have summarized better than Roxette in the lyrics to their hit song Listen to Your Heart:

Listen to your heart

When he's calling for you

Listen to your heart

There's nothing else you can do

I don't know where you're going

And I don't know why

But listen to your heart

Before you tell him goodbye